Divorced…Can Jesus Relate To My Suffering?

Divorced...Jesus understands

Ten Reasons Why Jesus Understands.

Hebrews 4:15 bothered me for years. It says: “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are – yet without sin.” I know about Jesus’ suffering, how he was beaten and forced to wear a crown of thorns; how they nailed him to a wooden cross by his hands and feet and left him there to die. That would be the ultimate definition of suffering. And if I were being crucified, I know Jesus could relate, but what about the things we go through in life? Like when I got  divorced, I wondered…can Jesus relate to my suffering? Getting a divorce is not something Jesus ever did. He was never married to a woman. So how on God’s green earth can Jesus relate to someone getting divorced?

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How To Stop Trying To Fix Things You Can’t Fix

Stop trying to fix things you can't fix

Are you a fixer?

Well, I’ve got good news. You can learn how to stop trying to fix things you can’t fix and trust God. I know this is a hard thing for you to accept, but you can sit still and not feel responsible for the world’s problems. Truth is, we can’t fix the human kind of problems or the people in our lives that we love and care about. So why do we continue to try? It only frustrates us and most likely, frustrates the people we are trying to fix because maybe they aren’t ready to be fixed yet.

I get it! Your life is filled to the brim with people who need help. Most of the time, my life is overflowing with the needs of others. It’s not just personal family circumstances or friends that I interact with on a daily basis. The world around me is full of problems. There’s the newsfeeds that constantly scroll across Facebook and the stories on the 10:00 news. Let’s face it. This world’s in trouble and if you’re a fixer like me, you carry that huge weight on your shoulders. You feel like something terrible will happen if you don’t fix everyone and everything like yesterday! But it won’t because ultimately it isn’t up to you. It’s up to them and God and only He knows how to fix everyone and everything!

Learning how to sit still and trust God.

In one of my devotional readings yesterday, it talked about drawing strength from the Lord to live life. It outlined how He gives us strength to go on in the drudgery of life, how to go up when climbing a high road of difficulty, and how to go down after being on the mountaintop with God. But the one that grabbed my heart was this:

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One Way To Achieve Perfection

one way to achieve perfection

I Am Perfect!

Have you achieved perfection? Can you say this with me? I…Am…Perfect!

Something just goes in sideways, doesn’t it? If you want to know what true perfection is and how to achieve it, then here’s how.

First, let’s define true perfection. We have been bombarded for so long by the world’s idea of perfect that we seriously can’t bring ourselves to even think we could be. I recently taught at a Women’s Conference about the struggle we have trying to measure up to the world’s definition of perfection. I showed them a poster of an ad for a major retailer with a tall, beautifully tanned young woman in a tight-fitting black dress. She had long, flowing wavy hair. Her eyes were gorgeous and her face flawless. Her skin was smooth and without blemish and even her feet in little strappy sandals looked perfect! I asked the question,

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Find Joy Again By Letting Jesus Have The Lead

Find Joy Again By Letting Jesus Have the Lead

Does it seem sometimes like life is a party and everyone but you is having a good time? While others seem to dance through life, you keep finding yourself on the sidelines or dancing with the wrong partner. This article will help you get back to dancing with the best partner ever and you will find joy again by letting Jesus have the lead.

We were never meant to be alone and I’m not talking about needing a spouse here. God created us to have relationship with Him and His Son, Jesus, who loves to celebrate life with His creation. The scriptures are full of joyful celebrations and dancing. It saddens God to see one of his daughters left out and struggling to find reasons to be happy. He longs to take us by the hand and show us how to find joy again, but first He must teach us how to dance.

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Why Me, God?

Spiritual and emotional healing

Is your life like mine, marked by too many sad stories, too many bad choices?  Does your heart look like someone is using it for target practice?

Starting in early childhood, I was ridiculed for the way I looked.  I was skin and bones with a fair, freckled complexion. I didn’t go on a date until I was a senior in high school.  My parents divorced after 30 years of marriage leading to the sudden death of my dad 6 months later.  I wrote in my journal, “My dad died today of a broken heart.” I was only 16.  I have also been through the heartache of miscarriage and divorce, and the debilitating stress of financial ruin, just to name a few. As a single mother of 3 with a boatload of self-loathing, I set out on a mission to prove to the world that I was worthy of a man’s love. I took as my mantra what another troubled friend told me after my divorce, “You gotta go out there and use men before they have the chance to abuse you.”  Without going into detail, you can only imagine the places that led me.  Because of my own choices and the damage caused by others who hurt me, I became a very miserable young woman. An older and much wiser friend said to me one day with all the love he could muster, “Darlene, if you don’t get rid of that bitterness and anger, it will eat you up like a cancer.”

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Designer vs. Knock-Off

Don’t Accept The Devil’s Substitutes.

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy;
I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
John 10:10

Recently, God spoke to me about one very devious way the devil works in the lives of Christians. It has to do with us experiencing an authentic heart-changing life versus a fake and lifeless substitute, or another way of saying it is God’s designer life versus the devil’s knock-off. The devil understands there are some who will pay the price for authenticity and others who will settle for a cheaper version. If he can’t stop us from becoming a Christ-follower, he will try and get us to buy into his substitute for all things spiritual.

We see this played out everyday in the marketing world as advertisements try to entice us to buy the latest and greatest things. Because of a need to impress and keep up with the Joneses, people go into heavy debt buying the more expensive designer clothing or the latest name-brand item on the market. A few months ago I fell for this when I bought into the overrated hype of the Yeti cup. I spent $30 when I should have spent $9.74 for an Ozark Trail cup that works just as well. Afterward, I swore not to ever fall for those advertising gimmicks again. Yeah, right!

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